“What’s most important to you for you to feel fulfilled with your life...?”
Connection to other people, that you care about their well being as you do your very own, should be high on this hiarchy of fulfillment. You owe it to them as well as yourself to work towards being the best version of yourself, but that alone is a hollow existence in and of itself. Caring for others above yourself doesn’t support being your best self, so forget pretending that attitude gives you a gold star outside your name. I’m here today to discuss getting over the minutia of the petty bullshit. There are enough critical decisions to make within the complexity of a modern life, so elevating minor ones to a higher status only diminishes the overall quality of the brief period of time we all get. I’m currently schlepping across Italy on another adventure to feed my sense of wonder and experience what life has to offer, not what happens to come my way. Through these adventures, I see people of varying cultures being themselves in their everyday life. It’s easy to judge or condemn what at first glance doesn’t align with what you know about your life, but after a while you can begin to dissect the components of the human condition, and extract nuggets of insight to improve yourself, and your perspective. There’s no such thing as a perfect society, and cheering about such things is fucking mental retardation for the most part. Appreciation for what adds value to the quality of what truly matters, and dismissing the minutia is the process. Finding the discipline to focus on the process and repeat it regularly is the challenge. Attaining the wisdom through experience is the end game for lifting ones self to a higher level of fulfillment. It’s not about income, status, or wealth. My brother and sister and I have created more for our life’s than all our previous ancestry combined, and we never identify that. We’re all grateful for the foundation that we were given by their experiences, and the capacity for kindness and compassion they instilled in us. You will never find fulfillment until you find gratitude for having a life to work with.
“Love conquers all...until, you realize it’s only a slice of a much larger pie of life”
Love is important to maintaining a full life, and it’s rated extremely high by most individuals. Love is evolutionarily biological to sustainable relationships for rearing offspring, but requires work and adjustments when maintaining its part in fulfilling life. Love encompasses all the relationships that we acquire across a lifetime, and ebbs and flows with the circumstances of the times. It feels so amazing, and like the end of the world. Offering yourself up to love another person unconditionally is one of the keys to a fulfilling life. If you only love those people in your life because they love you back, you’re missing the fucking point. Love them because they mean something to you in a way that allows you to be yourself with them around. If they judge you, are they really who you want to offer your love too? Love is a complicated proposition at best. It can make us feel so alive, and can make us want to die in a split second. Love requires management of our supporting conditions to participate, but not of those we share it with. The sad part is, even with the best of all circumstances perfectly aligned, it’s not a complete life. Relying solely on love for fulfillment is extremely selfish and shallow. If all you have to offer humanity is your love, you are pretty worthless to the advancement of our species, as well as creating processes to lift those around you. Hungry, sick, and uneducated people need more than just love. They need action! If love doesn’t motivate beneficial behavior, it’s not serving anyone but you.
Being connected, managing love’s impulsive responses, what’s going on here? Nearly everything we do as individuals based upon assumptions that everyone around us is chasing the same dream is a fucking bullshit lie! Having more doesn’t make you happy. Being wealthy is not a remedy to loneliness. The most amazing love you could ever imagine won’t make you complete. Life is way more complex than that! The best explanation of life I’ve ever heard came from a Bloomberg radio interview with a young man acknowledging his father’s advice. “Life is hard, and only momentarily interrupted with moments of brilliance...” Life has to mean something to you beyond what it simply feels like! You have to mean something to others beyond just what you can do for them. We all have to strive for fulfillment and enlightenment to what truly matters to the connection of everyone. We have to drop the ego centric notion of power and control for the harmony of togetherness. The notion of scarcity has no relevance in abundance and love. We believe only because we hope to belong, and we fail to question ourselves to the ideas of what’s really important...