“Your/Focus”

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Your life is what you make of it…provided there’s opportunity. Freedom is the ability to choose freely from the possibilities, not necessarily do anything, but responsibly taking what’s available as long as it doesn’t diminish the lives of others. Fairly simple and straightforward? Why does humanity continue to struggle with this formula?

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My current visit to Romania has brought all of these questions to light for me. The shadow of the half century of communism lingers across the generations captured by its effects. It’s not as easy as lifting the curtain to expose the opportunity. It takes many generations to accumulate the context of liberal democracy with the transformative benefits of capitalism to raise the possibilities for everyone. More than anything it’s re-enforced the social issues of the United States and our struggle to overcome the pitfalls of generations struggling with each other to improve the system.

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Deep at the core of this human condition lies it’s roots of potential equality distorted by the divergence of unequal opportunity. Every single generation widens the lens for their space in our evolution, but narrows its focus down to its lack of true relevance as that generation expires. Somehow we continually fail to effectively accelerate the adaptation to the rate of change for every generation alive at a given moment in time.

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Rather than lift people upward, we destroy their imagination of hope suggesting they try harder. Social complexity grows much faster than our understanding of how we all fit together. It feels like we all focus so much on how we arrived losing sight of what’s ahead. The next three decades will determine the fate of our entire species. I’ve decided to be engaged in that process, ignoring the inability of those around me to participate. This will be my final commentary about the generalities of our social failures. The remainder of my documentation will surround my engagement of saving our existence.

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#engaged #transformation

“Owning/It”

Critical Thinking

Communication

Collaboration

Creativity

What does it actually mean to “Own It”? “Own What” exactly?

There’s reality, there’s your perspective of it, and there’s how you feel about all of that. Accepting and managing the interpretation and emotional fallout from our perspective is the ownership. You are saddled with how reality resonates within your consciousness. It’s on you to control and contain the rampant chain reaction each and every occurrence reveals. Sitting around falsely anticipating what may or may not happen in lieu of understanding yourself to the extent you’re nimble enough to navigate the myriad of possibilities outside of your influence. Establishing defined boundaries to your actual influence and not freaking the fuck out over the weight of the burden.

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My mistakes thus far in my life all involved the confusion surrounding my feelings about various stations of my life’s path. Not realizing those feelings were only there because I allowed them to be emboldened over the best possible options associated with my circumstances. What felt right or wrong drove all the analysis of my consciousness. Dismissal of these emotional components in lieu of what made sense or was rationally supported never stood a chance against how I felt. We all wallow in our feelings until we discover the capacity to weigh them and categorize their purpose. My parents got a divorce when I was 15, and the devastating effects lingered until my early twenties. All the personal relationships during that period were shadowed by the emotional cloud of my despair. Reflecting back on this period of my life, I now see how I could have done a better job of finding my way through this situation. Every possibility of hope through opening up my heart to others was smashed by the emotional turmoil entangled around the weight of my Dads abandonment of his family, and more importantly me.

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Every new version of me that evolves from the trials and tribulations of what life throws at me is an improvement over what existed prior too. Those present in my life today would cringe at many of the previous iterations of my journey. Lives have been adversely effected and feelings have been stepped on throughout the trajectory of all this. Yes, I have regrets, but knowing how they only restrict moving past emotional stagnation, I’ve learned to know better looking forward. I now take ownership of that how I feel part of my reality, and avoid the pitfalls of overemphasizing just the emotional aspects. Taking that ownership requires seizing the reigns of ones emotional entanglement. No one can make that choice for you. It’s all on you!

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Love is some complicated shit! It feels so amazing, yet tears lives apart when improperly applied or misrepresented. Boiling it down to desire and pleasure only masks the true reality of its complexity. Responsible engagement is a much more accurate depiction of the situations it involves. Yet, love and it’s antithesis hate drive so much human behavior with their tug of war diametrically opposing forces. The very best and worst of our species rests at these polar opposites. The middle can only be achieved by wrangling the ownership of their creation away from its mystical evolution. Rationale contemplation where the decisions are rooted in the full spectrum of possibilities, not simply emotional motives. There’s simply no good place for hate to exist, and love needs conditioning to flourish. Once the coast is clear, love can be very rewarding for all.

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#love #understanding #compassion