Emotional entanglement creates a false sense that carries over to every thought, where we entwine slow deliberate rational thinking with automatic intuition slathered in emotion. This fallacy is believing in the idea of absolutes in our lives in terms of how our emotions give us feedback. This is the super fucked up aspect of our misunderstanding of how we behave and how our brains function to give us this illusion. We tend to use past experiences to lock down our anticipated response to future experiences that we automatically identify as similar in nature to the ones in the past. Taking the interpretation of any moment out of the experience of that moment denies us the actual experience of that moment. Sounds like a tongue twister, but it represents the underlying issue to much of the present day social issues of our species. By using a past experience as an absolute in predicting a future experience, we lock down our feedback loop for growth and maturity as we age, thus narrowing our lives verses expanding them. Imagine stepping off a train at a random stop just because you didn't like the person sitting across from you looking at you. That train continues on to more preferable destinations, but you are stuck at the place you disengaged from the journey because your emotions got the best of you. Now, I realize this is an oversimplification to a very complex story, but the fact is whenever you randomly choose to stop growing with the universe around you, everything changes.
"...whenever your memories exceed your dreams, your life has stopped"
Physics and chemistry have bonded through their relationship with mathematics to form bundles of absolutes in our existence. Math being the language for communicating the underlying concepts that allow us to repeat and explain the natural phenomenon that occur in the universe around us. That's simply not how emotions work though. Emotions are malleable and can be interpreted to represent a variety of things, whenever we subject them to similar scrutiny we apply to the basic sciences mentioned above. Emotions have a profound binding capacity to the thoughts we create throughout our lives. The more emotionally charged the experience, the more profound the recollection for future usage that thought becomes. Our automatic thought process assumes the circumstances present during the initial experience will always result in the exact same results and sensations. First of all, the surprise value of an initial experience can't be replicated for future occurrences. Secondly, the complexity of any given moment in our existence suggests that a minor shift to one or a group of the factors contributing to that moment can profoundly skew the outcome. That alone is a distinct differentiation from the absolutes we know of other inputs such as physics and chemistry. We love the fuck out of predictability, so we just assume our emotions fall under the same reliable outcomes as the rules and laws we know of the universe around us.
"...you are not your emotions, your emotions are just a part of you"
Emotional Intelligence is the frontier where this understanding is playing out. Identifying how to manage the application of your emotions is every bit as important as developing your ability to consume and absorb information in developing one's IQ. It's within the overwhelming effects of our emotions that the majority of social conflicts exist. Emotions engage force to resolve conflict, where rational thought embraces reason to resolve conflict. Supporting your emotional state by surrounding yourself with likemined people builds ideological networks that feed off of the lack of reason. Emotions are highly valuable to the human experience, but just not applicable to every aspect of life and experience. Personal interaction and connections are vital to living a fulfilling life, and require the full attention of our emotions. Buying clothes only requires the precise amount of emotional support to give us a dose of confidence in how we will convey our inner self to others. Sharing your inner feelings with someone you hold dear to your heart requires a shit ton of inner self, and very little peripheral acknowledgment. I realize this simplified a very very complex situation, but it’s truly this simplistic in how we navigate management of our thoughts and emotions. That physical response to any situation is just your brain budgeting your body’s resources to respond to the effects of a thought our feeling in anticipation to an expected outcome. Once you intervene with a dose of rational response, you almost immediately diffuse the body’s fight or flight mechanism. Constantly subjecting the body to what’s intended to be an emergency response mechanism is not how life is supposed to be realized. Fight or flight produces stress responses equivalent to smoking cigarettes to your body. Now that we’ve identified how this all works, start to identify within your daily life where you overuse your emotions, where rational thought would be a much better tool. If you’re truly honest with yourself, you should be shocked at your misuse of your emotions.
“...fuck you man, who do you think you are telling me how to feel”
Take a look around and just listen. Every conversation around you tends to blend together for some reason. This is due predominantly to the simultaneous lifting of the human emotional state. Those effects I’ve mentioned in past writings about the correlation between the innovations of technology and the advanced speed of life in general in regards to our biological responses. This ramped up pace has created more anxiety, depression, stress, and adverse consequences in today’s society. For all the good associated with innovation, the unintended consequences are heavy. There is a better path in all of this though, we just have to adjust how we condition the young in order to better prepare them for a different future. In addition to reprograming our early childhood development scenarios, we need to influence every age group to aspire for something distinctly better for everyone. The freedom from a life chained to your emotional responses and able to reason where applicable, and feel where necessary. Can’t imagine that being nearly as conflicted as what we see currently around us.
“...I want a gyro”
“...there’s a food truck around the corner”
“...that’s it, show me your stuff”