“Owning/It”

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What does it actually mean to “Own It”? “Own What” exactly?

There’s reality, there’s your perspective of it, and there’s how you feel about all of that. Accepting and managing the interpretation and emotional fallout from our perspective is the ownership. You are saddled with how reality resonates within your consciousness. It’s on you to control and contain the rampant chain reaction each and every occurrence reveals. Sitting around falsely anticipating what may or may not happen in lieu of understanding yourself to the extent you’re nimble enough to navigate the myriad of possibilities outside of your influence. Establishing defined boundaries to your actual influence and not freaking the fuck out over the weight of the burden.

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My mistakes thus far in my life all involved the confusion surrounding my feelings about various stations of my life’s path. Not realizing those feelings were only there because I allowed them to be emboldened over the best possible options associated with my circumstances. What felt right or wrong drove all the analysis of my consciousness. Dismissal of these emotional components in lieu of what made sense or was rationally supported never stood a chance against how I felt. We all wallow in our feelings until we discover the capacity to weigh them and categorize their purpose. My parents got a divorce when I was 15, and the devastating effects lingered until my early twenties. All the personal relationships during that period were shadowed by the emotional cloud of my despair. Reflecting back on this period of my life, I now see how I could have done a better job of finding my way through this situation. Every possibility of hope through opening up my heart to others was smashed by the emotional turmoil entangled around the weight of my Dads abandonment of his family, and more importantly me.

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Every new version of me that evolves from the trials and tribulations of what life throws at me is an improvement over what existed prior too. Those present in my life today would cringe at many of the previous iterations of my journey. Lives have been adversely effected and feelings have been stepped on throughout the trajectory of all this. Yes, I have regrets, but knowing how they only restrict moving past emotional stagnation, I’ve learned to know better looking forward. I now take ownership of that how I feel part of my reality, and avoid the pitfalls of overemphasizing just the emotional aspects. Taking that ownership requires seizing the reigns of ones emotional entanglement. No one can make that choice for you. It’s all on you!

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Love is some complicated shit! It feels so amazing, yet tears lives apart when improperly applied or misrepresented. Boiling it down to desire and pleasure only masks the true reality of its complexity. Responsible engagement is a much more accurate depiction of the situations it involves. Yet, love and it’s antithesis hate drive so much human behavior with their tug of war diametrically opposing forces. The very best and worst of our species rests at these polar opposites. The middle can only be achieved by wrangling the ownership of their creation away from its mystical evolution. Rationale contemplation where the decisions are rooted in the full spectrum of possibilities, not simply emotional motives. There’s simply no good place for hate to exist, and love needs conditioning to flourish. Once the coast is clear, love can be very rewarding for all.

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#love #understanding #compassion

“We/Risk”

“What can we accomplish if we overcome the fear of failure...?” 

All too often our dreams collapse against our fears of falling short of reaching them. Comfortable is something we exaggerate beyond its necessity in life. Fear is such a natural response to the unknown that we don’t even bother to bargain with its limitations. Choosing between daring and stupid can be a razor thin decision, but necessary for revealing the jolt of living a life. Emotional entanglement launches us on these pleasure seeking missions devoid of actual fulfillment of purpose. The extremes of awesome and crisis rule our consciousness to the extent we no longer can identify normal. Instead of mindful correction, we justify with social acquiescence as to not be offensive about our judgement. In an emotionally supercharged society, dancing around the feelings of others is a highly praised skill. Spewing venomous attacks at strangers via social media is now the new normal. Our comparative inherent nature has dragged our species to it’s knees in regards to our social evolution. Focusing from within to produce our best selves is mitigated by the acceptance that others around us are much worse off in that respect. Human obesity is a classic example of this concept. No one just wakes up one day to discover they’re dangerously overweight. They don’t pay attention to the emotional entanglement driving their eating habits, and gradually over a period of time their bodies are overwhelmed by an extreme excess of calories compared to the level of physical activity they engage in. Eating is so much less traumatic than introspection into oneself, that the results are apparent all around us. Only when it’s too late and the doctor delivers the diagnosis of whatever complications have arisen from our inability to overcome this emotional entanglement do we pause to unwind the mess we’ve allowed to develop. I say all of this from personal experience. I’ve lived every single stage of what I’ve described, so it’s my own individual judgment of my life being reflected here. Living is intentional...existing is only tolerance of your entanglement with fear and anxiety.

 

 

  #love #happiness #life 

“What’s/Important”

  “What’s most important to you for you to feel fulfilled with your life...?” 

 

Connection to other people, that you care about their well being as you do your very own, should be high on this hiarchy of fulfillment. You owe it to them as well as yourself to work towards being the best version of yourself, but that alone is a hollow existence in and of itself. Caring for others above yourself doesn’t support being your best self, so forget pretending that attitude gives you a gold star outside your name. I’m here today to discuss getting over the minutia of the petty bullshit. There are enough critical decisions to make within the complexity of a modern life, so elevating minor ones to a higher status only diminishes the overall quality of the brief period of time we all get. I’m currently schlepping across Italy on another adventure to feed my sense of wonder and experience what life has to offer, not what happens to come my way. Through these adventures, I see people of varying cultures being themselves in their everyday life. It’s easy to judge or condemn what at first glance doesn’t align with what you know about your life, but after a while you can begin to dissect the components of the human condition, and extract nuggets of insight to improve yourself, and your perspective. There’s no such thing as a perfect society, and cheering about such things  is fucking mental retardation for the most part. Appreciation for what adds value to the quality of what truly matters, and dismissing the minutia is the process. Finding the discipline to focus on the process and repeat it regularly is the challenge. Attaining the wisdom through experience is the end game for lifting ones self to a higher level of fulfillment. It’s not about income, status, or wealth. My brother and sister and I have created more for our life’s than all our previous ancestry combined, and we never identify that. We’re all grateful for the foundation that we were given by their experiences, and the capacity for kindness and compassion they instilled in us. You will never find fulfillment until you find gratitude for having a life to work with. 

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  “Love conquers all...until, you realize it’s only a slice of a much larger pie of life” 

Love is important to maintaining a full life, and it’s rated extremely high by most individuals. Love is evolutionarily biological to sustainable relationships for rearing offspring, but requires work and adjustments when maintaining its part in fulfilling life. Love encompasses all the relationships that we acquire across a lifetime, and ebbs and flows with the circumstances of the times. It feels so amazing, and like the end of the world. Offering yourself up to love another person unconditionally is one of the keys to a fulfilling life. If you only love those people in your life because they love you back, you’re missing the fucking point. Love them because they mean something to you in a way that allows you to be yourself with them around. If they judge you, are they really who you want to offer your love too? Love is a complicated proposition at best. It can make us feel so alive, and can make us want to die in a split second. Love requires management of our supporting conditions to participate, but not of those we share it with. The sad part is, even with the best of all circumstances perfectly aligned, it’s not a complete life. Relying solely on love for fulfillment is extremely selfish and shallow. If all you have to offer humanity is your love, you are pretty worthless to the advancement of our species, as well as creating processes to lift those around you. Hungry, sick, and uneducated people need more than just love. They need action! If love doesn’t motivate beneficial behavior, it’s not serving anyone but you. 

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Being connected, managing love’s impulsive responses, what’s going on here? Nearly everything we do as individuals based upon assumptions that everyone around us is chasing the same dream is a fucking bullshit lie! Having more doesn’t make you happy. Being wealthy is not a remedy to loneliness. The most amazing love you could ever imagine won’t make you complete. Life is way more complex than that! The best explanation of life I’ve ever heard came from a Bloomberg radio interview with a young man acknowledging his father’s advice. “Life is hard, and only momentarily interrupted with moments of brilliance...” Life has to mean something to you beyond what it simply feels like! You have to mean something to others beyond just what you can do for them. We all have to strive for fulfillment and enlightenment to what truly matters to the connection of everyone. We have to drop the ego centric notion of power and control for the harmony of togetherness. The notion of scarcity has no relevance in abundance and love. We believe only because we hope to belong, and we fail to question ourselves to the ideas of what’s really important...

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  #love