“Social/Asylum”

As we fight through the process of unpacking the baggage life can give us over a period of suspect choices and impulsive decisions, we begin to cling to the idea of what brings us comfort. How certain types of personalities and situations support the newfound idea of how we view ourselves, and the off putting of those dreaded memories we’ve just unloaded. Youth and adventure walk hand in hand, but personal struggle and experience wipes away the desire to experiment with our hearts. Thus, we become hardened to the thrill of wonderment and the anxiety of chance. This transformation takes us to becoming the people we work so hard to not be during this build up. 

  “Why does this happen to us...?” 

 Is this just part of what we’ve deemed socially as maturity, or is this based more on the erosion of how life grinds away at us. The notion that applying an ultra high level of focus and attention, robbing the sheer joy of just being and discovering, makes zero sense to me. The American culture places a supreme emphasis on happiness, and the daily components of achieving and maintaining its status. You can hardly peruse a website, television channel, or bookstore where the self help make your life fucking fabulous guru’s with their “You can do this too” bullshit, don’t pounce on your vulnerable disposition. It must work for these messengers to some extent, or they wouldn’t do it. On the other side, if it were as effective as they suggest, wouldn’t we some day run out of people to convert to blissful existences. 

  “Here’s my take...” 

Childhood is to some degree difficult for everyone, who survives it. Not giving a shit about the specifics of its outcome is acceptable up to a point, then obsessing over every minute detail wipes out the fun of being a person. Detachment, resulting from all these aspects of our childhood, robs us of some of life’s enjoyment. We as parents don’t help our children properly evaluate their emotional transformation towards adolescence, and adulthood. We make all the fuss around the first five or so years, then rush to get through the rest, and get them to adults. Children just want to be adults as fast as they can get there from that age of five, so they don’t have to be bossed around any more. We now know the brains prefrontal cortex doesn’t fully develop until the mid twenties of a humans life, and the distance between there and their first words is the most important time to mold the next sixty plus years. What would happen if we encouraged more imagination and less anxiety about being an adult? Measure growth in the size of their vocabulary, and the math concepts they utilize instead of their position on the soccer field. Talking to our children rather than talking at them without allowing them to grasp the power position, where every conversation turns into a negotiation. Letting them know we are in some ways full of the same wonderment they see the world with, and share with them your capacity for vulnerability. Maybe that makes childhood better?

“What about the adult unpacking phase...?” 

Well, it will take a generation to yield the affects of this parenting shift, so let’s deal with adults understanding their childhoods were whacked. It’s incumbent of everyone to align your emotions with the now, and learn to leave the past as a controlled memory bank, and not a torturous mechanism robbing you of enjoying your present life. This takes patience, practice, and focus to overcome a lifetime of suffering at the hands of of this captive mindset. Finding your adult wonderment requires a good deal of introspection, not the kind you get from the gossip mills of your inner circle of friends and family. Development of the way the brain and your emotions actually function can help you build a better story for who you are today. Meditation for compassion and forgiveness will help you free all that pent up resentment towards yourself or anyone else. Exercise and eating a healthy diet are essential to feeling good at any stage of adult life. If you don’t believe me, give it a try! Remember the 2018 mantra: “If it’s in your best interest, and you can do it...why the fuck not?”  Give this lifestyle a ride, and ask yourself in all honesty...”Can I feel a difference?” 

 

 

#change

"Punch/Drunk"

Second time's a charm! I started this post a while ago, only to lose its content from a safari glitch and having to force quit. My thoughts this morning surround the outrage from the recent commentary from the real estate tycoon/reality television personality pretending to be the Commander in Chief. Liberals are incensed by his racist words, while Conservatives look like a cat covering up shit in a litter box trying to make up excuses or flat out deny the existence of what he said. What I see are people siding with whatever ideological values they've aligned with in order to feel a sense of belonging. They personalize words according to their belief's, thus feeling personal offense or defense as though the words were directed specifically at or in defense of them. Emotional prisoners from both sides face off in this ideological standoff, where no one actually wins, and progress is secondary to the claim of being right. Unshackling the chains of emotional enslavement requires a better understanding of what emotions are and what they aren't, as well as how they actually function within the human body. Take a look at this TedTalk on that subject from of the world's leading experts on the study of emotions and how they actually work within the human brain, including yours.

https://pc.tedcdn.com/talk/podcast/2017S/None/LisaFeldmanBarrett_2017S-480p.mp4

Earlier, while scribing the original version of this post I was casually listening to Face the Nation. Surprisingly, today's topic was the aforementioned subject with interviews with Tom Cotton (R: AR, who Ive met yet never voted for) and Joe Manchin (D: WV). Cotton sounded like he would eat a mile of presidential shit just to be recognized as part of whatever that bunch is trying to accomplish, while Manchin loosely condemned those words, but suggested immigration should be better organized. Who the fuck is working on actual solutions to the actual problems that exist in the world today? 

"What is a better solution to this partisan dilemma...?"

Let's think about the Democratic process and how it requires our individual participation. If you don't vote every time the polls are open, then you're letting the system down. It's not only your right to cast your vote, but your responsibility to show the fuck up on election day. That being said, understanding the issues and how the candidates can bring solutions is the key to your participation. If you don't perform your due diligence on whats at stake and how all the candidates address the solutions to the current problems, what the fuck are you voting for. We don't need more useless babysitters of the Constitution, that only posture against the other party. Take some time to familiarize yourself with how Federal, State, and Local governments function. This is vital to assessing the promises/lies of the candidates. Once you arm yourself with the proper tools to cast an educated voice, assess each incumbent on their past performance. If you can't identify any evidence that supports the campaign promises made by them, vote for someone else immediately, not for anyone simply because they belong to a particular party, that you used to emotional align with. Don't we owe it to the promise of change?

Summary:

Identify within yourself a better understanding of your emotional biases. Unshackling the chains of emotional enslavement requires educating yourself to the reality about how this impulsive component of your behavior affects the rest of your world. Next, apply that new perspective to everything around you, especially your participation in your community, state, and country. The only hope of realizing a better future lies in the hearts and minds of the individuals that make of our world, and not the few who on confuse the issues, and deliver only broken promises.

 

#politics