“What can we accomplish if we overcome the fear of failure...?” 

All too often our dreams collapse against our fears of falling short of reaching them. Comfortable is something we exaggerate beyond its necessity in life. Fear is such a natural response to the unknown that we don’t even bother to bargain with its limitations. Choosing between daring and stupid can be a razor thin decision, but necessary for revealing the jolt of living a life. Emotional entanglement launches us on these pleasure seeking missions devoid of actual fulfillment of purpose. The extremes of awesome and crisis rule our consciousness to the extent we no longer can identify normal. Instead of mindful correction, we justify with social acquiescence as to not be offensive about our judgement. In an emotionally supercharged society, dancing around the feelings of others is a highly praised skill. Spewing venomous attacks at strangers via social media is now the new normal. Our comparative inherent nature has dragged our species to it’s knees in regards to our social evolution. Focusing from within to produce our best selves is mitigated by the acceptance that others around us are much worse off in that respect. Human obesity is a classic example of this concept. No one just wakes up one day to discover they’re dangerously overweight. They don’t pay attention to the emotional entanglement driving their eating habits, and gradually over a period of time their bodies are overwhelmed by an extreme excess of calories compared to the level of physical activity they engage in. Eating is so much less traumatic than introspection into oneself, that the results are apparent all around us. Only when it’s too late and the doctor delivers the diagnosis of whatever complications have arisen from our inability to overcome this emotional entanglement do we pause to unwind the mess we’ve allowed to develop. I say all of this from personal experience. I’ve lived every single stage of what I’ve described, so it’s my own individual judgment of my life being reflected here. Living is intentional...existing is only tolerance of your entanglement with fear and anxiety.



  #love #happiness #life 



  “...not everything is a competition” 

Human consciousness tends to accelerate seemingly every opportunity into some sort of competition. Call it survival of the fittest, but that’s a childlike perception of Darwin’s work, and biology in general. These battles we build into our awareness are mostly self imposed, rising from the emptiness surrounding existing as an individual being.    “Man can do about anything, if he gets hungry enough” That’s not to imply life is void of competition with others, and we often seek it’s exhilarating effects to break up that boredom associated with the individual. I’m here to discuss the rationale for filtering life into the appropriate subcategories to properly engage where competition exists and to recognize when and where it doesn’t.   “Prepare for battle...or, stand the fuck down”





  “...sometimes there are no winners” 


Every conflict is a perceived competition of some kind. What exactly constitutes legitimacy for a necessary or beneficial competition? Remember that individual referenced in the beginning, they hold the answers to this problem. Within the consciousness of everyone lives the basic tendencies of “fight or flight” wherever a threat is perceived. It’s an unconscious mechanism for self preservation, where your brain initiates behavior from fear for survival. This is extremely appropriate when your life is in danger, and detrimental to rational thinking for all situations not involving your mortality or bodily harm. This hardwiring is the basis for the why we arrived here, and the how we rise above this. Measuring gives us power for understanding, and reference for comparison. Lord knows we love to compare ourselves for no apparent reason, just so we can say some shit. 



  “...too much conflict leaves us sad” 


 Competition is part of how living organisms sort things out. Adaptations for the sake of long term survival is precisely what Darwin spoke of in his Origin of Species. How much of ones life should be devoted to the survival aspect of your existence? That’s important because, we can then allocate all of the remainder of our time. Here is where the picture of our existence becomes much clearer by focusing on what holds us back from becoming better individuals. Now all of a sudden the excuses we make appear as lies to ourselves. 



  “...absence of competition allows for complacency” 


There’s a mechanism within the conscious mind of our species, that allows our judgement to regulate our response to the constant stimulus we receive from our sensory receptors. It doesn’t come with a guidebook or instructions, that’s the role of experience and learning. Being able to quickly and accurately identify the difference between threats and pleasure is an individuals responsibility to develop. Taking shortcuts in this process leads to herding of individuals into groups of lazy unaware folks. Circumventing one’s unique individuality with that of a larger group often times leads to ideology, which is not always bad, but most of the time renders its followers confused about their role in making life better for everyone. When you’re not competing for basic survival, then exactly what are you competing for...? 



  “...everyone wants their slice of life” 


Abundance and Compassion are not components of biological competition! Basic survival and being loved shouldn’t be viewed as a race against scarcity. Everyone can have enough as to not be a burden on others without sacrificing their capacity to be loved. It’s a simple matter of perception combined with taking the initiative to become that individual hero Jordan Peterson speaks of in his writings. Imagine you’re in charge of saving humanity, and you don’t have to sacrifice yourself, but you also can’t sacrifice others! Neither Republicans or Democrats see you in this context. Their sole objective is to perpetuate the competition, in spite of whatever sacrifices are necessary to the individuals. Hmmm...pretty fucked up, huh? 



  #game theory  


That feeling that comes from being the person you want yourself to be. Satisfaction never tasted so sweet as when your sense of self aligns with your actual self. The comfort provided by this inner peace is what all sentient humans strive to attain. Gone is the anxiety of “what if” along with the regrets of “what could” as the realization of the now rings louder than any other aspect of consciousness. 


Yet, this is only the beginning of ones enlightenment into this self fulfillment. A foundation of sorts to build out the complete structure of a life well lived. Finding the courage to resist paying back all the emotional debt accumulated by you, and stopping just long enough to shine your forgiveness down upon those same debtors owed to you.  


Loving others, in the way we love ourselves is the crescendo of personal ascension in life. Suppressing our ego's yearning  and not betraying our motivation to truly connect to that part in others we feel in ourselves. Peace lies at the doorstep of our ability to transform the possessive child in all of us, to the emotionally evolved being, we all long to somehow be.


Time is the commodity of life, that no one can hoard. No matter how hard we try, it slips through our grasp each and every day to pile up behind us as the memories we hold onto. Realizing, it's not about what we've done, but what we're doing transforms the heart, as well as the soul.