“Line/Drawn”

Let’s begin with decades as our point of reference. None of us have centuries of experiences to draw from, with personal perspectives to add. Although, what I’m about to convey certainly goes back well beyond the lives of those living today. 

#Me Too isn’t a one size fits all call to action.

Men have long viewed sex and sexuality in a duality of physical and emotional contexts. Despite our mother’s and grandmothers best efforts, young men viewed women from two very diverse perspectives. What we learned about love and respect was tarnished by objectivity and conquest from our peers and so called mentors. The attitudes of the Mad Men world were very much a part of the lives of that generation. 

“Then came the sexual revolution...”

Everyone born after 1975 hasn’t a clue as to the impact of this social revelation. The attitudes towards sexuality reversed course as women began to stand their feminist ground against the oppression of sexism, and the Boomers in general shed the conservative attitude about sexual freedom. Hiding your sexuality was tossed aside for openness to the idea sex wasn’t just about love and marriage, it was a form of freedom. It was this period where the roots of the modern day Weinstein were planted. 

Deep Throat and Legalized Abortion changed the landscape of adult sexuality...”

The ability to legally terminate a pregnancy and produce pornography tore the proverbial lid off of a modern day can of worms. It’s hard to fathom forty-five years later, that two previously unimaginable freedoms would carry the weight of change, that’s occurred since their unleashing. Birth control was approached by promoting abstinence, and pornography was Swedish Erotica. Social attitudes cast off behavioral biases and preferences as well as perversions and mutations. That door opening forty-five years ago allowed most of the acceptance we see today, as well as most of the terrible shit, we didn’t intend to develop. 

“Steering the narrative in a more beneficial direction...”

Male mammals are hardwired to some  degree to exhibit sexual prowess. That being said, defining an acceptable level of social tolerance among human males is the challenge. Finding females sexually attractive is part of the male genetics, identifying precisely when it’s acceptable to share this phenomenon is where we stand presently. Teaching boys to manage rejection (that should be as normal as being turned down for ice cream for dinner) instead of letting their impulses be allowed to turn into something far worse. My parents never bothered to instill any emotional intelligence with me or my siblings. That too was derived from your peer group, look at how fucked up things have gotten! Those decades I mentioned in the beginning, I’ve watched that story unfold across my life. The social problems of any era exist because the society of that particular era allow them to. If enough people announce their disdain for a particular behavior, the behavior is pushed from the society. There’s no explanation for why things have been allowed to be this way, just excuses for why they’re not changed to make things better. 

#NotMeToo

#feministdadsofamerica

“Gender/Roles”

In today’s world, the roles of males and females have been cultivated over hundreds of years of cultural influences. The Harvey “Dickbag” Weinstein issue has brought to light some of the many fucked up dynamics associated with the way we view and represent the social roles of males and females. 

“Biological vs. Sociological...”

Evolution has left males and females in their very distinct roles for propagation of our species. Regardless of your social views and perspectives, the male provides the sperm, and the female provides the egg, gestation, and birthing of our offspring. In order to reproduce future generations of our species, a specific protocol must be followed. For hundreds of thousands of years, this went on absent of any interpretation of the assignment of ulterior roles or agendas. Small groups of Homo Sapiens, linked by genetics and proximity, worked together to maintain and sustain their groups health and well-being. Anthropological finds from all over the world, have given us insight into this understanding of our species. Around 150 is the consistant population of these tribal gatherings. It’s speculated by anthropologists, that this number represents the natural limit for inner personal relationships among our species. All members of these groups could maintain an intimate relationship with all other members of the group. 

“Roles were assumed by biological capacity...”

Everyone provided the capacity to the group, they were best physically adapted to supply. Accept what your abilities are, and get the most of what you can provide. Life was simple, and large groups of humans hadn’t amassed yet, so injustice and war as we know them, weren’t a part of human life. The point is every single word thus far, are here to suggest the sexism expressed in today’s world, was mostly absent up to the time period of my story. Its hard to verify, due to the lack of written language, precisely what specific gender roles were, but evidence of remains from both males and females of advanced age, suggests parity of responsibility. Responsibilities represent value in an inner dependent society. 

“So...who the fuck, designed today’s division of responsibility?”

Why are we wasting away in a society, that tolerates males being as shitty as they are today? 

Sexism evolved with social roles associated with larger gatherings of humans resulting from the advent of agriculture. The march towards a male dominated social structure went fucking full on after the advent of religious ideology. The Inquisition Periods of Papal direction from the late 15th Century up until 1834, were an unsuccessful attempt to convert Jews and Muslims to Catholicism by accusing women of those faiths of hericy. The notion women were more likely to be witches than men...are you fucking kidding me🤡

Rule of law, democracy (with its right to vote regulations), and the proliferation of Christianity with the technological adaptation of the great naval development of the period, allowed for the deterioration of the female roles in social context. It wasn’t a master plan, but it wasn’t planned out either. So much time had passed since we recognized the female importance, we forgot to even recognize its role. Social overcame the acknowledgment of biological. Science was young, and the full discovery didn’t happen until the later portion of the twentieth century. Today, it’s an abomination to even suggest there’s an ounce of acceptance to any legitimacy. 

“We are beyond any debate...equality is the standard, we all must measure ourselves by”

The discussion of equality begins and ends with, what are we as individuals  doing to keep it front and center. It’s not resolved until it’s not able to be identified. The fact I’m compelled to write this confirms the need to do more.  #sexism